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What Is Bullying
What Is Bullying?
Not every disagreement, argument, or unkind comment between children is bullying.
Bullying is unwanted aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived imbalance of power and is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.
That imbalance of power isn't always physical strength. It can come from popularity, social status, access to embarrassing information, or a group of children targeting one child.
Bullying can take several forms:
Physical bullying — hitting, kicking, pushing, tripping, slapping or rummaging through and damaging someone's belongings.
Verbal bullying — name-calling, insults to them or their family, threats, teasing, or humiliating comments.
Social bullying — deliberately excluding someone, spreading rumors, embarrassing them, or damaging friendships and reputation.
Cyberbullying — bullying through texts, social media, gaming, messaging apps, or other digital communication.
One of the difficult things for parents is that bullying isn't always obvious.
A bruise can be seen. A child being deliberately excluded from a group may be much harder to see.
That's why changes in a child's behavior, friendships, attitude toward school, sleep, or confidence deserve our attention.
Types of Bullying
Where and When Bullying Happens
Frequency of Bullying
Types of Bullying
Bullying doesn't always look the same. It can be verbal, social or physical, and these behaviors can also happen online through cyberbullying.
Then keep your existing detailed descriptions underneath, beginning with:
1. Verbal Bullying
Verbal bullying involves saying or writing hurtful things and may include:
- Teasing
- Name-calling
- Inappropriate sexual comments
- Taunting
- Threatening to cause harm
Verbal bullying can be especially difficult for adults to notice because it may stop the moment a teacher or parent is nearby.
2. Social or Relational Bullying
Social bullying is intended to damage someone's relationships, reputation, or sense of belonging. It may include:
- Deliberately leaving someone out
- Spreading rumors
- Encouraging others not to be someone's friend
- Publicly embarrassing someone
- Using friendships as a way to control or hurt another child
There may be no physical injury, but suddenly losing friends or being deliberately isolated can be deeply upsetting to a child.
3. Physical Bullying
Physical bullying involves using physical actions to hurt or intimidate someone or interfere with their belongings. It may include:
- Hitting, kicking, pushing, or tripping
- Taking or damaging belongings
- Intimidating physical gestures
- Blocking someone's path or deliberately invading their space
Physical bullying may be easier to recognize, but children don't always explain how an injury or damaged possession really happened.
4. Cyberbullying
Cyberbullying o3ccurs through digital communication such as text messages, social media, messaging apps, online games, or other internet platforms. It may include:
- Sending threatening or humiliating messages
- Posting embarrassing photographs or videos
- Spreading rumors online
- Deliberately excluding someone from online groups
- Creating posts or accounts intended to embarrass another person
Unlike bullying that may stop when a child leaves school, cyberbullying can follow a child home—and harmful content can sometimes be shared with a much larger audience.
Why Don't Kids Ask for Help?
Many children who experience bullying never tell an adult at school what is happening.
Why do so many children remain silent?
- Bullying can make a child feel helpless. They may want to handle the situation themselves to regain a sense of control, or they may worry about being seen as weak or a “tattletale.”
- Children may fear retaliation or worry that the bullying will become worse if they tell someone.
- Bullying can be humiliating. A child may be embarrassed by what is being said or done and afraid that adults will judge them.
- A child who is already feeling isolated may believe that no one will understand or be able to help.
- Children may worry about rejection from their peers or losing friendships and social support.
Silence doesn't necessarily mean everything is okay.
Sometimes the first indication that something is wrong isn't what a child says—it's what begins to change.
Warning Signs your Child May Be Experiencing Bulling. Children don't always say, “I'm being bullied.” Sometimes a change in behavior says it first.
Parents may want to pay attention to:
- Unexplained injuries
- Lost or damaged clothing, books, electronics, or other belongings
- Frequent headaches, stomachaches, or complaints about feeling sick
- Changes in eating habits
- Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
- Declining grades, loss of interest in school, or not wanting to go to school
- Suddenly avoiding friends or social situations
- Noticeable loss of confidence or self-esteem
- Feelings of helplessness
- Running away from home, self-destructive behavior, or talk of suicide
If a child talks about suicide or appears to be in immediate danger, seek professional or emergency help right away.
No single warning sign proves that a child is being bullied. But noticeable changes in behavior, friendships, school performance, or emotional well-being are good reasons to start a conversation.
What Should I Do If My Child Is Being Bullied?
If your child tells you they are being bullied, one of the most important things you can do is listen.
Try to remain calm and let your child explain what happened in their own words. Knowing that you believe them and are willing to help can make it easier for them to continue talking.
- Listen first. Give your child time to explain what happened without interrupting, blaming, or immediately trying to solve the problem.
- Reassure them. Let your child know that telling you was the right thing to do and that they do not have to handle the situation alone.
- Get the facts. Ask what happened, where it happened, who was involved, how often it has occurred, and whether your child feels safe.
- Document what is happening. Write down incidents, dates, locations, and people involved. For cyberbullying, save screenshots, messages, emails, or other evidence.
- Work with the school. Contact the appropriate teacher, counselor, administrator, or other school personnel and ask what steps can be taken to help keep your child safe.
- Make a plan with your child. Talk about trusted adults they can approach, places where they feel safe, and what they can do if another incident occurs.
- Keep checking in. Don't assume the problem is over after one conversation. Continue talking with your child and watch for changes in behavior or mood.
Most importantly, make sure your child knows they can continue coming to you—even if the situation doesn't improve immediately.
“Not all children who are bullied exhibit warning signs.”
Some signs that may point to a bullying problem are:
- Unexplainable injuries
- Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry
- Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
- Changes in eating habits — such as suddenly skipping meals, eating much more or less than usual, or coming home from school unusually hungry.
- Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
- Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school
- Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
- Feelings of helplessness or decreased self esteem
- Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves, or talking about suicide
Keep in mind that not every child who is being bullied will show obvious warning signs.
If a child appears to be in serious distress or immediate danger, seek appropriate help right away.
Signs a Child is Bullying Others
Children who bully others may:
- Get into frequent physical or verbal fights
- Have friends who bully others
- Become increasingly aggressive
- Be sent to the principal's office or receive frequent disciplinary action
- Have unexplained extra money or new belongings
- Blame others for their problems
- Refuse to accept responsibility for their actions
- Become highly concerned with popularity, reputation, or social status
Seeing one of these behaviors doesn't necessarily mean a child is bullying someone. Look for patterns, ask questions, and talk with your child about what is happening.
Children who bully others need guidance and support, too. Addressing the behavior early can help them learn healthier ways to handle conflict, frustration, relationships, and emotions.
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